Sunday, March 25, 2012

We didn't see it coming

My Aunt Annette has cancer.

We found out today. She found out today.

After a few weeks of progressively worse pain - and progressively worse care from her physician - Aunt Annette had to go to the ER. My mother insisted, actually. She got up this morning, got dressed, called my cousin (and roommate) Liz on the way and took Aunt Annette to the hospital. Despite her protests.

My mother wrestled with the doctors a bit but she finally got what she wanted for Aunt Annette: an x-ray. And they saw what we didn't want to see: leisions on her bones.

Multiple myeloma.

This all happened today. It hasn't been 12 hours. We know nothing.

"I didn't see that one coming," my mom said, over and over and over again. My dad's side of the family -- they don't get cancer. They die of heart disease. Fast and sudden. They don't get cancer. Aunt Annette can't have cancer.

I'm worrying about Aunt Annette. But I'm worrying like hell about my mom, too. My mom, the family's healthcare advocate. She has a lot of appointments ahead of her. A lot of battles to fight. She will do exactly what needs to be done and she will do it well. We always get the best care because my mom demands it. She will advocate for Aunt Annette like she advocated for Aunt Marie.

Like she advocated for her own sister.

That's what I'm most afraid of. Tonight, that's what I'm most afraid of. Aunt Annette isn't just my mother's sister-in-law; she is one of her best friends.

I'm afraid that my mom is going to lose another sister. I'm afraid of what that's going to do to my mom. And I'm equally afraid of what the fight to not lose another sister is going to do to my mom.


Little H said...

SO sorry to read this news. I'll be praying for your family.

k said...

i'm sorry. thinking about your family. lots of love sent your way!! xoxo

Kari said...

So sorry about your aunt's Dx....hoping that all goes well...your mom is amazing. Sending lots and lots of hugs

Mrs. Architect said...

Thoughts, prayers, and hugs, hugs and more hugs!!!!

Teagan B. Sawyer said...

I'm so so sorry to hear this. It really is unfair. Thinking of you and your family with extra prayers for your super strong mum.

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