Saturday, September 22, 2007

I shouldn't be surprised

At soccer last night, I mentioned to Heather that I'd gotten into grad school.

I told her the whole story - how I applied in August for the fall semester hoping I'd get in, but thinking that it was more likely that I'd start in January - and about how overwhelming the last-minute nature of this has been.

She asked me what I was studying.

Library and Information Science.

"Are. You. Kidding? You're. Going. To. Be. A. LIBRARIAN?"

Okay. Hi, Judgmenta Bitch, that wasn't very nice.

I was shocked by her response, which was so entirely rude and thoughtless, but I handled her calmly. I won't necessarily become a librarian in the standard sense of the word and, if that is what I decide to do, there's nothing wrong with it. I can work at a university, for a law firm or a non-profit or a thousand other places.

It's a good job. It will be a good fit.

Could you get over yourself and pretend to be supportive? I'm sorry that part of me wants your approval. You're my oldest friend; I've known you since 5th grade.

I don't hate on you for being a middle school math teacher (seriously? Math and middle school? Personally, I would rather kill myself, but that doesn't mean it isn't a good fit for you.) or for having a weird, stocky boyfriend who is completely devoid of personality (whatever floats your boat). It isn't my place. It isn't my life.

And while I would like to say that I was completely shocked by your comments, I'm not.

I'm shocked that I was stupid enough to tell you.

It's like we're freshman in high school and just I made the varsity soccer team all over again.


Stace said...

I'm guilty for the same thing, but not when it comes to jobs or school, more or less with boys for my friends. I'm sorry she wasn't supportive. I'm sure that's hard. But you know people change as do friends. :/ Good Luck though, I'm proud of you! Not that you care or needed to hear from me, I just thought I'd tell you. I'm envious in the fact that you have a FIT for you. I wish I could figure mine out. GRRRR

Anonymous said...

I'm not saying her reaction was okay, but I think people are still really unclear as to what library science is all about. It is still probably greatly associated with geeky glasses and sensible shoes. So...maybe that's where the reaction came from?

In any case, I think you're awesome for getting into the program you wanted and doing what you're doing. Good luck, and I hope Heather cleans up her act as a friend.

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